Parenting through the tough stuff

Parenting through the tough stuff

I never knew how tough it would be to be a parent until I became one. I was naive before children and thought it was something I would find easy as I was certain I had maternal instinct. In truth the maternal instinct kicked in straight away and I learnt quickly how to nurse with minimal nipple on display, how to pull a vest down rather than over after an explosive poo and how to ninga move out of a sleeping babies room. That stuff is hard to some extent and takes time to learn but parenting is so much harder than I could ever had imagine and something no one could have really prepared me for.

Parenting through sleep deprivation is hard. I have had to function on little to no sleep many times. I have been so tired I have walked around like a zombie unable to complete the easiest tasks like adding orange juice to tea instead of milk. People always assume you are most sleep deprived with a newborn which can be true and you tend to get some sympathy, but when you have a 2 year old who won’t sleep because of his teeth unfortunately you are own your own and just have to suck it up.

Parenting whilst adding an extra child. I thought it was tough, but manageable when I had one child. I could still get the washing done, have a shower and do my make-up with just a little juggling. When you have two or more there is no rest bite in between and they have a tendency to tag team you. Mr T is great at destroying something just as his sister needs to help having her bum wiped after a poo. Some days I literally feel touched out by having constant contact with one little person and I feel like hiding in the kitchen cupboard, unfortunately that is not an option as I’m too fat.

Parenting through sickness is bloody tough. My children have a knack at throwing up directly down my top so my bra catches it, coupled with Mr T doing an explosive poo and me being sick myself, things can be a bit minging and extremely exhausting when you are ill, but when you have children sick too is just relentless.

Parenting alone is something all us mum’s have to do to some extent but lots do it every single day, with little, to no break. I can’t comment on being a single parent as it’s not something I have been, but I can comment on the loneliest of having a husband who works twelve hour shifts, often nights. I have spent many a long day with the children just wishing he was there to take over for ten minuets so I can have a quick shower without my daughter watching, commenting on the size of my big wobbly bottom. It can be extremely isolating and the best way to deal with it is to complain with other mummy friends through play dates and the powers of social media.

Parenting through a mental illness is by far the toughest thing I have ever had to do. Dealing with postnatal depression after the birth of my second child was really tough and something I am still struggling with now 20 months later. On days I feel emotionally and physically weak, I still have to get up, still need to feed the children and still be a mum. I can’t just take the day off or hide under my duvet as much as I want to. I have hidden in a locked bathroom more times than I care to remember with tears pouring down my face, wondering how I will make it to bed time, but I always do.

Through the days of tough parenting I try to remind myself that I have a 100% success rate of completing these days. I have survive and I will continue to survive these days.




16 thoughts to “Parenting through the tough stuff”

  1. That’s all parenting is when they’re little, making it through the day, getting them through the day safe and sound. No need to aim higher or stress about anything beyond that…it all comes out in the wash #Fortheloveofblog

  2. Parenting is by far the hardest thing I have ever done. And while some of the early challenges do settle down, there is always something else to take it’s place. My girls eat and dress themselves, but now we’re starting to deal with bullying, and other social issues. And everyone still has meltdowns when they’re tired – myself included! Stay strong mama. You’re doing a great job!
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    1. I’m so worried how I’ll deal with the next lot of issues now my daughter has started school.I’m sure we’ll have lots of dramas to deal with x

  3. Parenting is super tough, we don’t get time off, others get time off from work, but we have to carry on regardless. Sometimes I like to hide too, normally on the stairs eating a biscuit, while CBeebies is on! It helps. I do find though that when I don’t see them, or me and J have some time together, we inevitabley start talking about them. Xx. #EatSleepBlogRT
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  4. You can do it, and you will find the strength to do it and get through the day. When I feel like this, I try to remember this could be a bad hour or bad day, and tomorrow will hopefully be better. I hope that you’re feeling better now, being ill and looking after kids is the worst. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  5. These are very real situations for us moms, some are more severe than others. That’s why support is imperative when parenting. Even just a friend to call and vent too… Great read! Thank you for sharing. #globalblogging

  6. You are amazing. Postnatal depression is a serious thing that most people do not give enough credit towards, I’m so happy you’re sharing you’re experience. My son has thrown up in my bra while my friends (non parents) we’re visiting and I didn’t even notice, however they felt it was quite disgusting and laughed but then left quite quickly afterwards. It’s so hard and I can completely understand I’m so glad you shared with #stayclassymama!
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