The lonely mother and the working husband. 

I try and remind myself how lucky I am to not have a husband that works away for long periods of times, but I still feel so sad over the fact I don’t see my husband. He isn’t married to his job because of
the love of it or the social aspect of it; he is married to his job because of the financial side of it. My husband works any day extra possible so we can afford that I only work three days a week and can be with our children. I love the fact I can work part-time
and be there to watch my children grow up, but it is such a lonely place at times. My husband works twelve hour shifts and regularly extra 70 hours overtime in a month.

It can be hard as when he does have a rare day off I’m desperate to see him and spend time as a family, but I am also desperate to get out the house myself and have some time without kids. My poor husband
hardly gets any time to himself in the evening and rarely has the energy to go out in an evening. He is working so hard so we can have a lovely Christmas and hopefully a nice holiday, but the sad thing is that he isn’t even at home this Christmas as he has
to work.

Whilst on maternity last year and when my postnatal depression was really bad my husband had no option but to work overtime so I didn’t have to go back to work early. It was a difficult time made more difficult
by being alone when I couldn’t cope, but we had no other option. I know they say money doesn’t buy happiness but it sure could make life a bit easier. I really regret that I look back on maternity leave as one of my worst years of my life when it should have
been one of the best and my husband sacrificed so much so I could be at home. 

I know a lot of us mums are in similar circumstances and it must be even harder if you are a single parent. We must not forget that being a mum can be a very lonely place and that is nothing to be ashamed
of. We will carry on and plan our days around play dates and toddler groups and thank the lord for our mummy friends who are in the exact same position. I personally couldn’t be without my mummy friends, mum Facebook groups for a chat and a rant and my other mummy bloggers
who remind me that we are not alone in this world. This situation right now is only temporary and one day it will change and we will have our husbands back, the children will have grown up and we will be desperate to be back sitting in that nursing chair desperately trying to soothe our babies back to sleep. 


18 thoughts to “The lonely mother and the working husband. ”

  1. Sorry to hear this. It sounds like it is really difficult for you at the moment. I hope it gets better and he won’t have to work that much! Could he look for a better paid job or a promotion perhaps?

  2. I’m sorry to hear this. I think loneliness can be really painful sometimes. I’m glad to hear that you have a good group of friends around you. I hope your situation improves and that your husband will be able to have some more time off with you. Xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. I completely understand motherhood can be so lonely at times especially when your husband is working trying to provide for your family. I hope this situation gets better for all the mums going through the same situation #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. Sounds so tough. Your husband must be worn out and it’s hard when you want to be with your child but that means sacrificing time with your partner. Hope things improve with time. You’re right, in the future you’ll miss so much about this time and, hopefully, these challenges will be forgotten. #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. I’m really sorry to hear this and feel sad that your maternity leave was one of the hardest years for you. It’s lovely that you have a husband who is working so hard for your family. Bringing up children is rearly hard and lonely, and mummy friends are the ones who pull you through it. I really hope that things get easier for you soon. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  6. I can relate. Although my husband never worked long hours I still had my lonely moments. When my daughter was born it really struck me how we parent in little boxes with just a few family members, and in the past it would have been more of an extended tribal thing, living with others and supporting each other. #brilliantblogposts

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