Finding happiness again

Finding happiness again

My task for this week is to find happiness again. I feel like I’m now ready for a few challenges which I know will make me feel better so I can get back to work as soon as possible. My biggest worry this week is being weaned off the medication I was on to help me relax and sleep, but I’m hopeful that I can do it if I have other things in place to make me happier.

Affirmations are something that do work from experience but over the last few weeks I’ve neglected them completely as I’ve been stuck thinking negatively, but I am ready to start these again. See a post I’ve written about affirmations click here . Something else I am starting again is my head space app which from experience has really helped me unwind before bed and clear my head. I find that with my anxious thoughts my mind races at 100 miles per hour and I really struggle to switch off and fall asleep, so I need to again adopt a calming bedtime routine to help stop this.

I’m planning on visiting a gym tomorrow which is local and has a crèche so at least on my days off I can have some time to myself and get fit at the same time. We all know how important endorphins are to make us feel happier so I think if I do a couple of classes a week to start with like Zumba and Pilates Its time to myself, gets me fit, I feel better and I’ll hopefully lose some pounds.

I treated myself to a lovely organiser a few days ago from Paperchase which I am hoping will make my life easier. I have a terrible memory especially with my medication so I thinking if everything is written down and scheduled in it will make me more likely to complete these things. I have a habit of cancelling on things at the moment as my anxiety and depression make it hard for me to get out.

A massive achievement this week for me has been to schedule my first counselling assessment on Tuesday which I know is going to be incredibly difficult, but its something that needs to be put in place so I don’t go back to where I was before and I know the long-term benefits will definitely be worth it.

I am back on Slimming World this week and will be eating plenty of fruit and vegetables as after a 4.5ib gain last week I’m feeling pretty rotten. I gained as I didn’t care and ate what I wanted to try to get some comfort, but I know this isn’t effective as at the time it might be nice and feel good to indulge, in the long-term it makes you feel guilty, sluggish and your jeans tighter. I need to get healthier for my own mental wellbeing as well as my health and stop using food as a coping mechanism. Check out my tasty slimming world soup recipe click here.

I have become guilty of palming my children off to the TV and tablet over the last couple of weeks as I haven’t been able to connect with them emotionally in my depressive state. TV is great and I have no issues with them watching it but they need a healthy balance. This week I’m going to focus on getting on the floor and playing with them, having the time to listen beyond their basic needs and laughing with them. Children can be the best medicine and without mine I would struggle so much more to get better as they really do bring me so much happiness.

Blogging has been a huge help for me to see things clearly. Writting everything down and reading it back is an amazing therapy and something I will be focusing on again, as it brings me lots of happiness. My mind last week was blank for ideas and it was something I just didn’t want to do, but finally now I’m sleeping again I’m getting some ideas again on what to write and I hope that continues.

Last week me and a friend went to Y spa which is local to us and I’ve visited many times before. If I’m honest I really didn’t want to go and have to face anyone, but my lovely friend arranged it all and forced me out the house and I’m so grateful she did. I had a lovely relaxing, child-free time and managed an hour-long nap on the heated water-bed. I had a fantastic facial and scrummy lunch and felt like a new woman when I left. I think spa trips should be compulsory to all mums every couple of months.

This week I’m going to be focusing on me and my happiness and doing things for myself again because if I’m not well I’m not going to be able to be the best parent I can be for my children.


34 thoughts to “Finding happiness again”

  1. I hope you achieve it. Let me know how the Zumba and pilates go and hopefully I can pop along with you in the future when things get a bit easier in this household. Also what gym have you found with a crèche?? x

  2. This is a very honest post and it’s refreshing to see a post that isn’t all rainbows and puppies. I can really relate to some of the things you have said. You have some great strategies so I hope you find your happiness this week! 😊

  3. Connecting with your kids when you feel like this is so difficult. I found that when we all sit together at the table colouring (the pudding in her princess colouring book and me in my adult mandalas colouring book) we get to connect in a creative way, without me having to do too much. Good luck with your challenges.#globalblogging

  4. It sounds like you’re making amazing progress and I’m in awe of just how much you’re taking a positive approach to your mental health. The meds is one thing, but it takes a lot of soul searching to recognise what your triggers are and what will help you focus on staying positive. I’m sure the counselling session will be insightful too. I’ve had counselling in the past to deal with a few issues and it helped enormously. If anything, it just helped me understand WHY I was feeling a certain way, which made it so much easier to cope.

    The one thing I will say, if you don’t mind me being honest, is that you’ve made lots of amazing plans. Please just remember that if you don’t manage to do one or two of them (e.g. the gym or playing on the floor with your kids instead of watching TV) don’t beat yourself up about it. Missing a gym session is almost inevitable (lack of sleep, a bad day, kids acting up…too cold out…yup, I’ve just all these excuses). It’s totally normal. Just put it behind you and commit to trying it another day. Progress is progress, no matter how small. #globalblogging

  5. I know the feeling. I’ve been going through a terrible stage and have decided enough is enough, changes need to be made! I love my planner and wouldn’t know what I was doing half the time without it so I’m sure that will help keep your thoughts organised. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

  6. It sounds like you’re making some great steps to get some happiness back in your life. It is great that you can see where you have problems but are working on resolving them.
    Hopefully this will be me soon!

  7. All the best for coming off your medication. Hopefully it will be a reasonably smooth ride. It sounds like the spa was well needed. I’m certain exercise will help too; Getting the body active distracts the mind for a while and also helps physically tire you so you’re more likely to sleep. This time of year is a tough time for most of us with the shorter days and less welcoming weather, so it must be even tougher for you. Just remember to be kind to yourself and remember that if you can’t get to a spa you can carve out 45 minutes for a hot bath with a cuppa/glass of wine and a book! #FamilyFun
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  8. This really is brilliant. Its so nice to read that you are doing and taking such positive steps. The spa sounds perfect, as does getting out and going to the gym. I always find exercise helps me to relax and lift my mood. I haven’t heard of that app but it sounds really good, and definitely worth looking into. I hope you begin to find your happiness again. Thanks for sharing at #Familyfun xx
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  9. This is fantastic, what great ideas! I know for one, I battle to switch off at night! I am such a light sleeper nad my kids still wake up at least 3 times a night. So I definitely need to re-evaluate that! And yes, a trip to the spa is a wonder for a mom! Actually a necessity! Thanks for sharing with us and I hope you have had a great week! Looking forward to hearing about it! #globalblogging

  10. YES to spa trips, they are sooooooo helpful. I used my friends birthday as an excuse to book a spa day for us girls, it was amazing. Like you said, I felt like a new woman. I also use affirmations and the headspace app, I haven’t been doing either recently but before my son was born I was doing both religiously lol. This post has inspired me to start using the app again, I think having even just ten minutes for yourself does wonders to your mind! Thanks for sharing with #GlobalBlogging!

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