Pigeon Pair & Wanting a Third Baby

Pigeon pair & wanting a third baby

I have been very fortunate enough to have two children and I can tell you now that I didn’t care what gender I had, I was just grateful that I could have children and that they are healthy.  People especially the older generation don’t seem to understand why when I have a perfect pigeon pair I would want to add to my family, but I do. I am certain that our family will not be complete until we have a third child. I have no preference on what gender we have and I’m pretty sure we won’t even find out, but I feel our family is still missing one tiny person.

Why do I feel the need to add to our brood? To be honest I am not sure and practically it probably isn’t the best decision, but then I see that it’s more important to have a big enough family to fill our hearts than money. I feel my decision has been slightly influenced by missing out on the first five months of Mr T’s life as I was crippled by depression and I had blocked out so much of it. I wish I could have appreciated the baby stage more with him, but now things are better I feel like I get so much from him.

I was one of two children and have grown up incredibly close with my older sister that I class her as one of my best friends. We share friends with each other and have even shared a couple of the same bridesmaids, but we couldn’t be more opposite if we tried. Not only do we look nothing alike are personalities are different, but one thing we do have in common is that we both have the most silly laugh and we can have each other in fits of laughter in seconds.  I hope my children can be as close
what we have become.

As a very small child I had dreamed about having children of my own and was always playing and caring for my dolls. I actually looked forward to turning 30 as that was the age my mum had had children and that’s all I wanted. I didn’t manage to wait as long as my mum and got pregnant at 23 with Miss J. It really was the most amazing moment in my life knowing that I would be starting a family of my own.

One thing I will not be looking forward to is pregnancy, I don’t do pregnancy easily and can say besides loving having a rounded tummy and feeling the kicks I find pregnancy a massive pain in the back, hips, legs etc. The 9 months of pain are all worth it though and something I would be willing to go through again. I think I still need a couple of years to block out the pain of pregnancy and labour before I’m mentally prepared to put myself through it again.

I do have a real fear of getting PND again and how I would cope with three children and this is why I want to wait a few years first to make sure I’m mentally prepared for it. I do hope that as I have been through this, that I will recognise it earlier and be able to get the help I need before things get too much. I can’t let it be a deciding factor in my future as that would mean I have let it win and take something else from me.

I’ve found parenting difficult and I’m certainly not the earth mother I had imagined myself to be. I’ve had PND, had a breakdown and have come out the other side, but I can confidently say I’ve been a good mum, caring mum, loving mum and my children are flourishing. I want another baby, not yet, but in a few years’ time and this baby will complete our family as five.


33 thoughts to “Pigeon pair & wanting a third baby”

  1. After my seconds labour I said to my partner no more but that seems too permanent! If its what you want then go for it 🙁 #brillblogposts

  2. Sounds like you’ve had a rough time over the years. But I’m sure if you have another one then your experiences will make you stronger and more able to spot onsets of depression. Also, family and friends can keep a watch on you having seen you suffer it before. I know what you mean about just feeling like you’re not done though! #FamilyFun

  3. Can so relate, have had depression most of my life. suffered pnd and maternal ocd and the guilt and self doubt is a killer. But you have done so well to come out the other side and know you are good mother. No one is perfect, I know cliche but so true. As long as they are safe, fed, warm etc your doing alright X #wickedwednesdays

  4. Can so relate, have had depression most of my life. suffered pnd and maternal ocd and the guilt and self doubt is a killer. But you have done so well to come out the other side and know you are good mother. No one is perfect, I know cliche but so true. As long as they are safe, fed, warm etc your doing alright X #wickedwednesdays

  5. I know how you feel. I have three children and feel a forth would make our family complete. Once that thought gets in your head it is hard to shake #tuesdaytreasures

  6. Oh you certainly sound like you know what you want. Whether it’s practical or not when it comes to kids the heart knows what it wants and what’s right for you isn’t always right for everyone. But it’s you and your family that matter. I hope to read a post about you’re third child one day! Thanks for sharing at #familyfun xx

  7. I remember saying no more 🙂 .. I am pregnant with baby #5… Having a large family is awesome. If that’s what you want go ahead and enjoy every moment. Yes it’s a tough job, but the most rewarding. I wish you everything of the best! Looking forward to the update! 🙂 Thanks for linking up! See you next week! #GlobalBlogging

  8. You should totally go for it if it’s what you want! I’m a sibling of 2, so is my partner. So when discussing children we’ve always said 2 is enough. We will be trying for a 2nd next year and is it wrong of me to secretly want twins!! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

  9. A thoughtful post. I always think that you should go with your heart and what you think will be right for you and your family. No matter how many little ones you have, some people will ask when the next one is coming along. Thank you for linking up to the #DreamTeam xx

  10. I’m so glad you wrote this post, it’s nice reading about other people’s thoughts on how many kids they want to have. I have always wanted three children but was never really sure if I could handle it. I’m only on number one so we’ll see how it goes lol. You sound like a strong person and to have gone through all that and still want another one shows what an amazing mum you are. Thanks so much for sharing with #GlobalBlogging!

  11. It is perfect time to make some plans for the future and it is time to be happy. I’ve read this post and if I could I desire to suggest you some interesting things or tips. Maybe you can write next articles referring to this article. I wish to read even more things about it!

  12. Ahhh a touching post parenting is one of the toughest jobs around. FACT. Wonderful for being so brave to write about it. Join in for tomorrow’s LAST EVER WICKED WEDNESDAYS!!! SOOOOBBBBBB! x

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