Keeping a positive mind-set is not easy and something I’ve always struggle with. I have learnt over the last few months skills through CBT on how to keep positive and not let the negative thoughts take over. For some reason us humans especially women often hear a negative thought in our heads and never think to question it and we perceive it as fact. With CBT you learn to question these thought and recognise them, as sometimes they are so quick it’s hard to even pin point them until you become aware. When ever I have a negative thought like for example ‘I’m a rubbish mum’ What I do is question it, what is the evidence that I am a rubbish mum? How can I disprove it? It’s working wonders for my mind-set and it has shown me my life through a new set of eyes.
On Thursday I went to a workshop at The British Library in London ‘Turn your passion into pounds’ hosted by Vicki from the multi award-winning blog www.honestmum.com and Jessica Huie (MBE) a PR goddess. The evening was packed full of useful information and the panel of ladies giving advice was 5 star. It was so lovely to hear the passion in these ladies voices, whilst they told us their stories of how they started up on their own and became a success in their own right.
I left buzzing with excitement about the prospects of my website and blog, how I plan to grow it and how I can make it work for me. I have been thinking heavily on the workshop and why I have always had such a limited view of my abilities. I am forever questioning myself, when the only person who is holding me back is me. I am constantly held back by my own self-doubt, fear of failure and other people’s perceived opinions of me, but if I don’t try I have just failed anyway, so sod it, lets give it a go.
I will be continuing to push myself out of my comfort zone and not let the negative thoughts try to ruin my dreams. I’m passionate about what I do and want to help people, whilst I help myself to overcome mental illness obstacles, that limit me from achieving not only normal day to day things, but also my dreams. Any negative thought you have, shut it down, don’t believe it and do what you want to do. Life is too short and too difficult as it is without listening to these horrible little negative voices in our heads. We own our own happiness and we have the tools to succeed in life.
My aspiration is to have a website full of motivational posts, help and advice on postnatal depression and reviews from products I actually love and enjoy. I am ready to go and I am no longer scared of the prospects of my future.
I tell my negative thoughts to sit down and zip it, they listen! #GlobalBlogging
Thats great. I need to teach mine to shut up at times lol
Great post. I’m a huge believer in mindfulness which helps with negative thoughts and anxiety. I often tell myself, what is the actual point in thinking that? What’s it going to achieve? #globalblogging
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Mindfulness is great stuff.
Love it! Positive thinking can do wonders. It really does make all the difference. #GlobalBlogging
It really does
Such a positive, inspiring post. Yes, often self-doubt and fear of the unknown is what holds us back – it’s all in the mind.
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The mind is such a powerful thing and we need to learn to use it to the best of our abilities 🙂
Sometimes that voice in our head is our own worst enemy as it’s far harsher than anyone else.. Good luck with making your blog the place you want it to be.
Thank you. We really are our own worse critics
Wonderful post. The voice in your head can be very load sometimes and it is not always easy to shut it down. But with some motivational help, it is possible! #globalblogging
Thank you. I think the more you work at it, the easier it gets 🙂
Some wise words here. Thanks for sharing, I hope you continue to strive for your dream you will get there! #globalblogging xx
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Thank you. I think I am getting there at last 🙂
Very true. It is difficult sometimes to shut out those negative thoughts. Something I struggle with a lot in my life.
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I’m sorry to hear that. Keep working on it 🙂
I am very shy so the negative thoughts and fears of putting myself out there are getting in the way, but I’m gradually growing in confidence. Well done for raising awareness that many people feel the same #GlobalBlogging
Keep going for it as the reward is so worth it x
Lovely post, after just recently being diagnosed with PND it was really inspiring to read this. #GlobalBlogging
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I hope your ok Amy. If you ever need to chat you can always message me x
The power of the mind is a really powerful tool, if we can only use it for positive thoughts instead of negative. Great post.
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If only we could
I’m so happy to read that you are taking such positive steps to get in a good mindset. It actually made me feel a bit teary reading your post. I have negative thoughts, not loads but enough. Why do we do it to ourselves?!
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Aww bless you Melissa. We are so tough on ourselves when we are just doing the best we can
Great inspirational post here! Well done! I heard about that workshop. I wanted to go too but can’t because of childcare, etc… Glad you had a good workshop. So inspirational. Go you!! 🙂 xx #GlobalBlogging
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Thank you. It was really worth the trip x
Michelle I think pushing ourselves out of comfort zone is a big part of achieving our potential. You sound like a woman on a mission. Good luck. #GlobalBlogging
I am on a mission. Watch this space x
It can be really hard to ignore those thoughts but we have to try. Good luck with your blogging goals. #globalblogging
Thank you
Great words of wisdom here. We have to be ready with that net to capture those moths and turn them into butterflies. #GlobalBlogging
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Great points,well made.It’s such a hard habit to break.#globalblogging
Inspiring post. I am really bad at listening to my negative thoughts and letting them get to me after reading this I will try to question my thoughts more and ty to think positive. #globalblogging
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I have never thought to actually stop and question a negative thought? That is such an interesting perspective!! I’m sure it brings a lot of introspection. Obviously it helps you to deal with the root cause. I sure am going to start questing mine!! I love reading your posts. I find them incredibly refreshing, honest and encouraging! Thank you SO much for co-hosting #globalblogging this week! It’s been great to have you!
my negative thoughts sometimes win with me but I’m a fighter:P most of the time I’m shutting them down
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Keep on fighting with me
I love how you know the direction you want your blog to go and have a focus to drive it along. My blog is kind of anything goes as long as its relating to my life – so its a bit all over the place.
You need to keep them negative thoughts down as you’re doing amazing and you ARE amazing lovely! try not to be so hard on yourself #globalblogging
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Thank you, it’s a work in progress, but I’m starting to learn to love myself again
It can be so hard to be positive sometimes, negaitivity is so strong. I love this post, it really reminds me to be more positive!
Thank you Brandi x
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I recently told a friend who is grieving the horrible loss of her grandson, and she went on and on about feeling fat, ugly and wrinkly. I listened, and then I told her in [ure tough love fashion, “Those are your easy feelings during this horrible time. Your goto feelings. Push them aside, lower the volume and grieve your loss.” She thanked me. We all need to find our volume buttons and tell that inner voice to shut the eff up! May you find your volume button swiftly. You are in control.#globalblogging xo
That’s so true Lisa. Thank you x
Good for you lovely! Vicki’s passion into pound workshop sounds amazing. I’ve seen her promoting them previously but never been able to go. Now that im on mat leave, I should really try to get myself to one whilst I can. It sounds like it was a fab investment of your time and energy, its great that you took so much away from it. I’m excited to see where you take your blog next 🙂 Emily #GlobalBlogging
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Thank you Emily. I did get so much from it.