I survived another week

I survived another week

I survived another week which was the hardest week of my life. Click here for last weeks blog post. Things have been tough to say the least, but after finally having things in place to get better and the support of my family and friends I finally can see a future again and make plans with my life. The biggest thing this week is that I’ve been able to get sleep and because of that I have been able to see things a lot clearer. I have forced myself out over the last few days to see some friends and do some stuff for myself and actually getting out, even though hard has made a huge difference. I’m still finding evenings hard especially with my husband at work, but I have now found ways to cope and keep busy.

The last couple of weeks I’ve felt extremely discounted from everything and unable to cope with daily life. I no longer cared about looking after myself and was only taking care of my children’s basic needs and leaving everything up to my husband as I was drowning in depression. I’ve felt like a complete failure as a mother and wife and been consumed with guilt which was eating away at me and making me more depressed. Mr T was refusing to feed from me which made me feel like an even bigger failure and that he no longer needed me in any way anymore. He was trying to latch on and coming off screaming like he couldn’t get anything and I was having to put him to bed crying, which really broke my heart. I think he was picking up on the stress as now I’m on new medication and getting sleep he’s back to feeding first thing in the morning and again at night. I’ve always cherished this time with him and its given me a purpose when I’ve been at my lowest. I know the day will come when he no longer needs this comfort from me and as long as it’s on his terms I will be happy for this journey to end.

Miss J has seen me cry over the last couple of weeks which I’ve hated her to see. She’s such a sweet and caring girl and has tried to make me feel better which has then again made me feel guilty as it’s not her job to make me feel happy. I have to remind myself that my daughter is a credit to me and her sweet caring side is from the way I have nurtured her and its something I should be incredibly proud of.  She has been more challenging than usual which I put down to her picking up on my depression and also her not being at school and being stuck in with me most days when I haven’t met her emotional needs. She’s back at school now and happy and I’ve made the most of story time and cuddles before bed with her. Miss J changed my life for the better when she was born in 2012 and made me something I had always wanted to be which was a mother. I really do love her with all my heart and thank my lucky stars everyday that she was given to me as she really has saved me.

My husband is not one with the words, but his actions always mean so much more to me. He has helped out so much with the children and showed me support and affection. He has built me back up and reminded me of how important I am to our family and has made me feel loved. I forget to give him the credit he is due and how important he is to me. My husband is my soul mate and for him to stick by me through all of this which has actually made us stronger is a massive two fingers up at postnatal depression.

I have had amazing support from the CRISIS team, my husband, friends, family, work and Facebook groups who have been there to listen to my fears, worries and have built me back up from rock bottom. without this amazing support system in place I can honestly say I’m not sure what would have happened to me. I was in a dark place and unable to see clearly or rationally and can honestly say I was scared for my own safety.

I am not cured and still have a long road, but I now know the support I need to get again if I ever to go back to that place. I will keep on fighting and will gain strength from this to become again the wife, mother and friend I was before, because I survived.

For support please have a look at Minds website

Taking a second to appreciate my children

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10 thoughts on “I survived another week

  1. Oh lovely this must be very hard for you at the moment but it looks like you’re doing all the right things. Mum guilt is a horrid thing at the best of times. Your support network sounds fantastic and I’m sure they are more than happy to help you through each day. You’ll get there. In the meantime remember to take time to celebrate the little wins as and when they happen. Thanks so much for linking up to #dreamandsparkle we hope to see you back next week!

  2. So sorry to hear your going through this. As a sufferer of PND myself I can relate to so many of the comments you made here, and some days it’s just bloody hard isn’t it? Sounds like you’ve got a great support network and taking all the right steps to get better. Just a case of one day at a time now and looking for the positives! As hard as that may be sometimes. As they say, there’s always a silver lining (you just need to find it) #dreamandsparkle

  3. So sorry to read you are struggling. I have lived with PND for 12 years, seeing some really awful times, so bad that I was hospitalised at points, but you’re doing so well and it’s all about getting through one day at a time, week by week, month by month until one day you realise you’re no longer struggling quite the same. You’ll get there I promise. #dreamandsparkle

  4. I am so sorry to hear that things have been tough for you. I too know what dealing with depression is like and I dont have any children to deal with. Thank you for sharing your story with us at #DreamandSparkle and I hope things continue to get better for you xx

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